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How Do You Deal With a Partner That Gives You The Silent Treatment?
How to Break the Silent Treatment (Assuming You’re Not an Asshole Who Deserves It)
Research has shown that the act of ignoring or excluding activates the same area of the brain that is activated by physical pain. The key to being closer in the good times lies in the way a couple treats each other during the bad. The initial pain is the same, regardless of whether the exclusion is by strangers, close friends or enemies. The silent treatment happens when one partner pressures the other with requests, criticism or complaints and the other responds with silence and emotional distance. Paul Schrodt , PhD, Professor of Communication Studies reviewed 74 relationship studies which involved more than 14, participants.
Through my coaching , I have been approached by many people with relationship issues. You may not be surprised to learn that one of the most common problems is the dreaded silent treatment. If you are on the receiving end of the silent treatment, you are going to be wondering what you did wrong and how you can resolve the situation. Sure, identifying the current issue may help you to resolve the current impasse but you are likely to face the silent treatment again. To resolve the issue long-term, you need to identify the reason the other person has chosen the silent treatment as their way to deal with problems.
7 Common reasons for the silent treatment
Instead of physical punishment or grueling work, which was believed to do nothing to truly alter the character of the criminal, prisoners would no longer be allowed to speak to each other and rarely be spoken to. It was intended to break their will in a way no hard labor ever could. And while it was difficult to enforce, and many prisoners found ways to communicate by singing, coughing or waving, many of them went mad in response to the deprivation; it rendered them into something far worse than merely criminals. They had become invisible nothings. Worthless, powerless zeroes. Unfortunately, people give each other the silent treatment everywhere people live, breathe and interact. But it still feels like shit.
By Petra Boynton. What do you do if someone ignores you after a row? When my partner and I argue he doesn't speak to me for some time after - the record being three weeks. How can I reach him when he's like this? Of course, women and men can give others 'the silent treatment' or, like you, be on the receiving end of such behaviour. The short answer to your question is you can't reach them. The effect of shutting a partner out is a powerful tool in conveying displeasure.